It doesn’t mean it’s always easy
Ever met a woman who had average looks but kept dressing and playing the part of a hot girl? Over time, you no longer perceive her as average. You perceive her as sexy.
Suddenly, it’s not even about her look. It’s her aura. Her vibe, her energy.
People who believe they’re hot also act like they’re hot, dress like they’re hot, speak like they’re hot. They do so repeatedly over the course of their lives, and well, they become hot.
I chose a woman for my example because I’ve seen it happen with my own eyes. Men can make it happen too, but I have yet to see it. 😄 No offense! Love (most of) y’all!
Act a way for long enough and watch yourself become it. What a strange, mind-blowing, universal phenomenon.
You can really trick yourself (and others) into thinking, believing, and perceiving who you are based on what you do.
Take exercise. People dread exercise.
But take a walk for long enough till it turns into a run.
The simple act of putting on your shoes and going for a run day after day — over time — makes you a runner.
Lift weights consistently and over the course of weeks, months, and years, you can call yourself someone who lifts weights.
The funny part? Your body starts anticipating and craving this activity.
What’s simple is not always easy. Yet the simple act of repeated actions can really shape and inform the way you live on an unconscious level.
That’s the crux of habit formation. In his famous book Atomic Habits, James Clear says:
“Every action you take is a vote for the person you wish to become.”
“Your habits shape your identity, and your identity shapes your habits.”
“Too often we convince ourselves that massive results require massive action.”
In reality, they only require incremental repetitive shifts.
“With the same habits, you’ll end up with the same results. But with better habits, anything is possible.”
The spiritual community would call it the Law of Attraction.
“The law of attraction states that whatever you focus on, think about, read about, and talk about intensely, you’re going to attract more of into your life.”— Jack Canfield
Want to be a Youtuber? Speak, behave, and act the way a Youtuber would.
Write your script. Turn on your camera. Shoot some film. Upload the footage. Edit your video. Make a thumbnail and title. Go to your page and upload.
Want to be a writer? Speak, behave, and act the way a writer would.
Sit down at your desk. Write. Edit. Ideate. Take a walk. Journal. Talk to people. Read. Listen, engage with, and observe the world. Publish, send, submit.
You become what you repeatedly do.
You are what you believe.
You act according to your beliefs, according to the stories you tell yourself about yourself.
Your story not serving you? Change it.
See how people buy into the stories you tell yourself too.
So watch what you say. Watch what you believe. Watch what you do. Because eventually, that’s what you embody. That’s who you become.
Say, think, or act a certain way for long enough, and you’ll convince others of the same thing you’ve convinced yourself.
Affirm who you are to the world with positive thoughts, pure intentions, and more importantly, repeated, consistent, and disciplined action.
Good luck! You got this.
Melissa Chanthalangsy 2022 ©
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